Category: Parents and Health

Any Writing for Parents.

Overwhelmed, Overloaded, Game OVER?!

“I can’t even begin to find my balance!”

Is this how you feel sometimes? Or like you can’t get much done in your day because there are not enough hours in the day for you to finish?

There is a reason why there are not enough hours in the day. Why?
Because you are not suppose to do everything in one day.

Do the terms: projects, drafts mean anything to you?

If you are in the working world, then this is a yes. If you are a housewife, these terms mean a lot to you and your family. If you are a lazy person… well, you really know the definition of these because you choose not to do them. See! Everyone knows these words!

SO what now?! I hear you screaming at the computer… (eeek…hold your Trojans!)

This week, I’ve read, heard and empathized with I DON’T HAVE TIME! What about if you where to turn this around to say I DON’T MAKE TIME! Have—Make… get it? Because in the end, that’s what it really is all about in this scenario… your choice to make time.

I’m pretty sure your boss (or you) gives YOU a certain amount of days of the week to do a project. If you are not doing this or allowing this… Think about it. (Some say yeah right!)

If you are a last minute junkie, like I can be… working on it too…you are not alone![Michael we love you!] Then, make sure you have someone to help you. It’s nice to hear that you have done everything on your own, but in the end who’s complaining? Umm humm… yeah. And trust me, if you make time for friends, they will make time to help you. Give and Take…balance.

A tool to help you:

Make a To Do List and Stick to it.

Number ONE rule on your To Do List: Make time for YOU!

This means, inking breakfast lunch and dinner to this list.
Add your work out.

If you want to watch a Show and vegg.

If you have kids, they are a part of you. Don’t neglect your kids please; I will throw down (not really, but I can bring out Super Shero nagger and tell you to STOP IT!) [Insert LOL and Serious look here].

If you need time away from your kids make this a weekly event. Mani Pedi! Monday night Football! Well If I had a kid I’d be watching football with them right now! But that’s just me.

Acknowledge that if you don’t finish your list (Categories: Job and Friends)make room for it later, just not too later that you forget about it or your friends’ name. (eerrr?)

“BUT JesSofia? What about my boss getting Mad at me for not finishing a project? YOU don’t know my boss, he wants it right now!”

Communication. They will ALWAYS want their job to be done first before your kids and family. It’s a business after all. However…REALITY check! How can you work if you’re not well, and overwhelmed? Talk to them. DO it WISELY. Don’t get yourself in trouble.

Any questions???? Please ask. And you shall get an answer back to ya!

Side note: Big Ups to my friend Berenice for helping me keep balance. The best Second right hand a busy on the Go woman can have! (Ok B you can breath now, I woke up, did my walk, made breakfast and finished editing my blog.) LOL!

Smile (If you want) 😀

-Jes Sofia Valle

Criticism

Criticism

Don’t let criticism break you, let it make you. And when told to you in a rough form, let them know. Speak up after they have expressed what they are saying. Like you want to be heard, hear. Like you want to be spoken to, speak.

Take what you must from the moment and look at it as an opportunity to add something to your self that will make you stronger and better.

Also, acknowledged that not all criticism is meant for you. This doesn’t mean that you are to ignore the person, but if you know deep down in your instinctual persona that they have no idea what they are saying. Let them speak. You never know, their words you may need someday.

Accept Criticism, just not the foul attitudes that come with it.

Defend you, be you. Learn to listen to you.

Jess Sofia Valle

And smile. (If you want)

Self-Culture and Balance

Lets read about Self Culture. Self-Culture you say? 😀

Self-Culture is…

You (say it with me… ME!). Self (ME) culture is mostly based on how you conduct your life. What are the everyday things you do, say, feel, touch and hear basically all YOUR senses.

Parts of you is how you live through your own quality of life (Where you live, how you style or not style yourself, what toothpaste you use!) Moreover, you’re placed worth as person (I like to think I’m Shera sometimes). And at times how we allow society to view our persona (this is a super small part because you cannot control how other’s view you.) With Your Self Culture comes what captivates you, gives you a rise, what you require to be excellent in arts, letters, manners, scholarly pursuits, etc. Self-Culture = you.

This also means knowing your ethnic culture, who you are in your ethnic culture, whether you are Latina, Mayan, Aztec, Latino, Black, Belizean, Guatemalan, African-American, American, Caucasian, Native American, Blue man group, Mexican, Asian, White Which ever Ethnic Culture that is Lucky to have you… Know that part too and how you fit or don’t fit in it.

Sounds overwhelming doesn’t it? It is not. You probably already do it and you don’t even know it.

Taking (noticed I said TAKING) balance means being you but also being aware of what “YOU” are doing. Sometimes, we become so “overwhelmed” that we feel and think that we forget to do things, go to places etc. But, If we paid more attention to our Self Culture; on the WHO, WHAT, WHERE, WHEN AND HOW of our lives, we will then, be able to see what we want and need. AND what we don’t want and don’t need.
You can create your balance. Yes sometimes we need someone to give us a nudge, and that too is VERY OK. (I ask for nudges by my peers and friends too). But once you become aware of you and your culture, surroundings and who you are, you take even more control. Some of us need to take less control sometimes too. That is just part of the balancing act.

So here are some ways you can create balance:

* Define your day
* Remind yourself who you are (keep is positive!)
* Write things down if you must (I DO!)
* Tell yourself what you want to accomplish. (Put it out into the world so it can come to you).
* Be aware of your surroundings
* Be aware of whom you are with
* And Trust yourself to live balanced.

All this takes time to happen. They say it takes 21-23 days to start up a habit. So try it out.

Learn you, Live Life, Love and Be!
Jes Sofia Valle

I suggest you learn the word: Boundaries

I’m an advocate for taking care of “me.” And my close friends know that I was not like that before. You see… I use to be the girl that use to do over 20 projects at one time. No kidding. And I ALWAYS wanted to please everyone. But I had a REALITY CHECK! And although I was thriving, my body wasn’t, it was depleting. I saw that I was not pleasing myself, body, emotions, thoughts… Which should have been my first project.

“Even the smartest people have their air moments” JSV

I suggest you learn the word: Boundaries

These are SOME questions I ask myself before taking on a task:

1. Will this make me money?
2. Will I able to TRULY handle this?
3. What is time line this will take away from me?
4. How do I truly feel about this project?
5. Do I really want to do this?

These are reasonable questions. Questioning something you do is more profound than you think.

A scenario: We get bottled up in a routine, of which we become mechanical in doing something. Which then, may lead to you being Unhappy. You being Unhappy then allows for you to suffer more in the end. Being “unhappy” is a though. If your thinking allows your body to be chemically imbalance, then your body goes bonkers. And then, you are not even able to do what you hate or love to do because you are not there.
Sometimes, this takes a long time to happen. Sometimes you may never know that you are going through it because you are so very busy that you don’t feel it. But your body does, and you being disconnected with your body…well you already know that not well at all.

SO…next time you take another project think about your self; Your Body, Your mind, your emotions/thoughts. Place yourself first. Don’t forget about your family if you have one, or your friends if they are your family.

When you are happy, healthy and able to be on the Go, you will be able to do what you love and more! JSV

Jes: I am still working through getting better for me, so that I too can do more of what I love to do. Don’t forget it is a process. JSV

Live Life, Love and Be!

Anger, Questions…and how to express it to enhance you. Food for thought.

Now a day, we (the people) are filled with Anger… and sometimes we don’t even know what the meaning of Anger is anymore.

You will read questions of how to better learn your self and this emotion.

In a place filled with Love and happiness, we sometimes hide what anger is because we are afraid of the loss of control and of the what ifs. We don’t feel it; we don’t show it, and most of the time we don’t know what it is. Does it have to be a good or evil thing? Does it depend on how you view it?

Do we hide from it because we are supposed to be “good?” Do you really know what makes you angry, or do you let anger pass you buy with out feeling it. If you do express it, are you expressing it under your control or allowing it to take over you?

Anger:
1.a strong feeling of displeasure and belligerence aroused by a wrong; wrath; ire.
2.Chiefly British Dialect. Pain or smart, as of a sore.
3.Obsolete. Grief; trouble.

When someone does you wrong, what are your automatic responses, is anger one of them? Do you know these responses? Do the small things make you “blow” up? Or do you not place any mind to it and continue with it. Do you keep it in and like a slow gas leak let it blow up in the end? Do you know?

What path do you use to react to your anger? Who says anger is a “bad” emotion?

What are some forms you are able to express your anger though to make it work for you?

Have you heard of the word creativity? Did you know that people you know that are able to transform their anger into a piece of art? “We humans are the only creatures who can and more or less create ourselves.”-S. Diamond. Are we then to use our anger as a transformation?

How well do you really know how to control your emotions? What makes you feel?
And what part of your life allows you to keep control. For some, it may be basic knowledge, for other, its self-awareness, or a belief that something else is helping you. Nevertheless, do you know what that is?

These are some question that I hope help you guide you to your own understanding of how to better yourself when anger is around or in your life in some form. Because there is a given, it will be felt at some point in your life. How you react to it is what counts on this one.

Living-choice-friends

Living

For me, Life is what I experience. Weather it is something I Touch, feel, taste, see and don’t see but believe.

There are many paths to this Life thing. You make your own pathway. And sometimes your choice leads you to where you are currently. And other times, life just gives you things that you may not think you can’t handle; yet you are still alive.

Thus far, I have found that by pushing towards a goal has helped. Being and accepting my own self, have allowed me to get thought the weirdest moments in life. And by me being, I’ve smiled.

Choice

You have a choice to smile and/or be happy. For the people that cannot smile due to physical inabilities, you are still able to be happy. Not everyone shows their joy the way they wishes, but they can make a choice of being happy.

You see, when I go though rough times, I have recently allowed myself to depend on my friends to help me be cheered up. No matter the pain, or the struggles, I have found that people are in my life for more than just to help. They are there to also help me. I choose to allow them in my life and make me smile.

Friends.

Make sure you follow your instinct about people. Some are placed in your life for a moment, they will be there for you or for you to help them through a rough patch, and some stay for a long time. This you “should” know by now. Nevertheless, they are not less or more important while you are with them. Treasure the people in your life. For some are more than Just friends, they become like your siblings.

So next time you go though sadness or joy be aware that you have the choice to be with friends. They are there for a reason.

Remember to live life, love and be!

Sleeping

Sleep, the best thing created in my life! It is what allows my pours at night to rejuvenate, to allow all my face lotion’s nutrients to make my face smooth! LOL.

Sleep

“Sleep is a naturally recurring state of relatively suspended sensory and motor activity, characterized by total or partial unconsciousness and the inactivity of nearly all voluntary muscles. It is distinguished from quiet wakefulness by a decreased ability to react to stimuli, and it is more easily reversible than hibernation or coma. Sleep is a heightened anabolic state, accentuating the growth and rejuvenation of the immune, nervous, skeletal and muscular systems.”

Moreover, it allows for a better tomorrow. And for many, sleep is an inability that requires much work or a distinct process. For some, like me at me at times, sleep is laying on my bed and knocking out. But, unlike my normal self tonight, many people, like me — have a difficulty with sleep. It hard! Wanting to go to sleep and not being able to. Not even Ambien helps some. Which allows me to say that I fully empathize with all that have difficulties sleeping.

I know, Its a fact, that I have my reasons as to why I am not able to fall asleep tonight, that fact being that my pain increased tonight. Nevertheless, I would think that my body would want to sleep. Don’t you think? If sleep is a method to heal and restore, and the body doesn’t sleep while in pain… Does that make sleep a fake “best thing ever created in life?”

My attempts for sleep shall be: (giving you ideas here…*wink*)

I hope, that you sleep well tonight. Whoosa, yoga, listening to my breathing, warm milk, taking a warm shower, snuggling with my piwoo (pillow), praying to the sleep gods for rest, focusing on my pain to help reduce it (some people may cry themselves to sleep (ie.breakup, death, etc) all OK), Ibuprofen! (That will be me for sure…LOL), placing some brown sugar by D’Angelo tunes to sing me to sleep, Ahhh this I like! (I would take out Dicey Street blues or of the list, too up beat and maybe, dare I say, Smooth). Remembering of times and places that allow me comfort and peace.

Everything Happens for a reason. 🙂 I’m writing to you about it, am I not? 😀

Goodnight. Sleep tight. ☺

Being Positive for your own good

Something about life that I have learned thus far is that no matter what happens, I am to remain positive. Granted, I have been though much in my Short lifespan…and though at times I did not think positive, everyone else around me knew that positivity was what I wanted and need. I think by now remaining positive and calm have attached to me like my name.

Moreover, I like to be positive because only life knows what great things have come from being positive. Along with great health. Lower blood pressure, less stress, increase other things, and low bad other things… get it? 🙂 The way you think = the way your feel.

Not to say that I have not had my days where I am sad, or have become angry… I just try to bring it back to staying positive. After all, I am a human. It’s healthy to be angry at what one goes through, but I also have seen, that if you let it get too far, you’ve done just that, you’ve let it go too far.

So next time your day goes bad, feel it, but get back to a balance and not remain on sour note for the rest of your day. You body may be taking it in, and you may not even know it.

Live life, Love, Smile and Be… if you choose to be happy.

-Jes

Communication

Every wonder how many of your close friend and loved ones are long distance now a days?

Going back to us all being connected. Why is it that when you sense something about someone and you call them and think of them they say “OMG I was JUST thinking about you!” or “DUDE I was just about to dialing your number.” Why is this? What makes our bonds so tight that we can do this? Do we have telepathy powers?

#foodforthought

AND If we don’t call when we feel we should…because we are too busy with our life, is that telling us that its not all about us? Hummm (Hollerrrrr! Aleluyerrr!)

Because Reality check! Life is not all about us! I mean we need to defend and “rekon” with our life and lifestyle… BUT we are not meant to be un-social “beans” (beings).

Well… I will tell you how I have achieved in friendships in this social media/computergenic cyberrific world…

I type…Hello! HA-HA! what else did you want me to say???

So next time you think of someone and want to see how they are doing, do it! Call them, e-mail them, text them, write an “old fashion” “snail mail” letter (i love getting those), hit them up on skype, yahoo, AIM, Dishnetwork, clone yourself, Blogg it, gmail it, Myspace it (no dead yet), Facebook it, High Five it, send an online fax, send a “old fashion” fax, morse code the Hello to your peeps. Heck send a telegraph! Have someone ride a horse to leave them a massage! Do it! You will make someone smile.

You will remain connected (point) and when the Aliens come to get us, someone in this earth will know your are gone to mars on vacation. (kidding)

Have a sweet day!