Category: Education

LYesterday while sitting at my doctor’s office, I met a very interesting woman.

She told me about her distress… she talked like no one had heard her in years! She began to cry about her experience: She said she was hurt while picking up a trashcan at work. She fell and broke the top of her neck. (OUCH!). Imagine that. Now, she doesn’t dare to do much because she is afraid of her pain. Notice, this is not one of my patients… just another passenger in this ride called life.

So I asked her, how do keep your life balanced if you’re afraid to move much?

Woman: I don’t have a life anymore. I’m always tired, my back is stressed out and I cannot move.

JesSofia: You do know that when you don’t move your muscles get tight and your pain increases.

Woman: I don’t care. I’m old anyways (60yrs old)

JesSofia: First of all, you don’t look old. Not is 60 old… Oprah is making it the new 40. Didn’t you know this?

Woman: Laughing… oh my goodness dear, your made me laugh. I have not laughed in a very long time.

JesSofia: I’m glad I can make you smile. So now what? You know that you can smile?

Woman: I had forgotten to laugh…

JesSofia: Like you said you forgot to move your muscles?

Woman: I see what you mean.

JesSofia: I Just want to tell you that whatever you have gone through or whatever you are going through. No one can take your power but you. You create your balance. No one else. At the end of the day what you choose to feel, feel it. What you choose to accept, accept. What you choose to Deny, Deny. It is your life to make it happen for you at no matter what young age of 60 you are. I wish you well and Next time I see you, if ever, I want to see you smiling.

This woman reminded me… that you create your balance, its an allowance you allow in your life. Things happen to us sometimes, but at the end of the day we choose how to deal with it.

How do you deal with your life?

If you feel down and you cannot get out of “the low” contact your local Support team. If you are threatening to hurt yourself, there is help.

Lets read about Self Culture. Self-Culture you say? 😀

Self-Culture is…

You (say it with me… ME!). Self (ME) culture is mostly based on how you conduct your life. What are the everyday things you do, say, feel, touch and hear basically all YOUR senses.

Parts of you is how you live through your own quality of life (Where you live, how you style or not style yourself, what toothpaste you use!) Moreover, you’re placed worth as person (I like to think I’m Shera sometimes). And at times how we allow society to view our persona (this is a super small part because you cannot control how other’s view you.) With Your Self Culture comes what captivates you, gives you a rise, what you require to be excellent in arts, letters, manners, scholarly pursuits, etc. Self-Culture = you.

This also means knowing your ethnic culture, who you are in your ethnic culture, whether you are Latina, Mayan, Aztec, Latino, Black, Belizean, Guatemalan, African-American, American, Caucasian, Native American, Blue man group, Mexican, Asian, White Which ever Ethnic Culture that is Lucky to have you… Know that part too and how you fit or don’t fit in it.

Sounds overwhelming doesn’t it? It is not. You probably already do it and you don’t even know it.

Taking (noticed I said TAKING) balance means being you but also being aware of what “YOU” are doing. Sometimes, we become so “overwhelmed” that we feel and think that we forget to do things, go to places etc. But, If we paid more attention to our Self Culture; on the WHO, WHAT, WHERE, WHEN AND HOW of our lives, we will then, be able to see what we want and need. AND what we don’t want and don’t need.
You can create your balance. Yes sometimes we need someone to give us a nudge, and that too is VERY OK. (I ask for nudges by my peers and friends too). But once you become aware of you and your culture, surroundings and who you are, you take even more control. Some of us need to take less control sometimes too. That is just part of the balancing act.

So here are some ways you can create balance:

* Define your day
* Remind yourself who you are (keep is positive!)
* Write things down if you must (I DO!)
* Tell yourself what you want to accomplish. (Put it out into the world so it can come to you).
* Be aware of your surroundings
* Be aware of whom you are with
* And Trust yourself to live balanced.

All this takes time to happen. They say it takes 21-23 days to start up a habit. So try it out.

Learn you, Live Life, Love and Be!
Jes Sofia Valle

I’m an advocate for taking care of “me.” And my close friends know that I was not like that before. You see… I use to be the girl that use to do over 20 projects at one time. No kidding. And I ALWAYS wanted to please everyone. But I had a REALITY CHECK! And although I was thriving, my body wasn’t, it was depleting. I saw that I was not pleasing myself, body, emotions, thoughts… Which should have been my first project.

“Even the smartest people have their air moments” JSV

I suggest you learn the word: Boundaries

These are SOME questions I ask myself before taking on a task:

1. Will this make me money?
2. Will I able to TRULY handle this?
3. What is time line this will take away from me?
4. How do I truly feel about this project?
5. Do I really want to do this?

These are reasonable questions. Questioning something you do is more profound than you think.

A scenario: We get bottled up in a routine, of which we become mechanical in doing something. Which then, may lead to you being Unhappy. You being Unhappy then allows for you to suffer more in the end. Being “unhappy” is a though. If your thinking allows your body to be chemically imbalance, then your body goes bonkers. And then, you are not even able to do what you hate or love to do because you are not there.
Sometimes, this takes a long time to happen. Sometimes you may never know that you are going through it because you are so very busy that you don’t feel it. But your body does, and you being disconnected with your body…well you already know that not well at all.

SO…next time you take another project think about your self; Your Body, Your mind, your emotions/thoughts. Place yourself first. Don’t forget about your family if you have one, or your friends if they are your family.

When you are happy, healthy and able to be on the Go, you will be able to do what you love and more! JSV

Jes: I am still working through getting better for me, so that I too can do more of what I love to do. Don’t forget it is a process. JSV

Live Life, Love and Be!

Happiness is an attitude. We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong. The amount of work is the same. ~Francesca Reigler

Now a day, we (the people) are filled with Anger… and sometimes we don’t even know what the meaning of Anger is anymore.

You will read questions of how to better learn your self and this emotion.

In a place filled with Love and happiness, we sometimes hide what anger is because we are afraid of the loss of control and of the what ifs. We don’t feel it; we don’t show it, and most of the time we don’t know what it is. Does it have to be a good or evil thing? Does it depend on how you view it?

Do we hide from it because we are supposed to be “good?” Do you really know what makes you angry, or do you let anger pass you buy with out feeling it. If you do express it, are you expressing it under your control or allowing it to take over you?

Anger:
1.a strong feeling of displeasure and belligerence aroused by a wrong; wrath; ire.
2.Chiefly British Dialect. Pain or smart, as of a sore.
3.Obsolete. Grief; trouble.

When someone does you wrong, what are your automatic responses, is anger one of them? Do you know these responses? Do the small things make you “blow” up? Or do you not place any mind to it and continue with it. Do you keep it in and like a slow gas leak let it blow up in the end? Do you know?

What path do you use to react to your anger? Who says anger is a “bad” emotion?

What are some forms you are able to express your anger though to make it work for you?

Have you heard of the word creativity? Did you know that people you know that are able to transform their anger into a piece of art? “We humans are the only creatures who can and more or less create ourselves.”-S. Diamond. Are we then to use our anger as a transformation?

How well do you really know how to control your emotions? What makes you feel?
And what part of your life allows you to keep control. For some, it may be basic knowledge, for other, its self-awareness, or a belief that something else is helping you. Nevertheless, do you know what that is?

These are some question that I hope help you guide you to your own understanding of how to better yourself when anger is around or in your life in some form. Because there is a given, it will be felt at some point in your life. How you react to it is what counts on this one.