Category: Education

Coach for Cure

The last time I bough a purse it had a lot of meaning to me because It was my little coach purse I take into all my sessions. The Little but VERY FABULOUS Pink purse.  First of, I carry it because it reminds me of what can be overcome by strong women all over the world. It reminds me of things I’ve gone through, but most of all its pink, which reminds me that no matter who or where you are at as long as you have yourself, your love for you and others, I will be OK.

This one I bought at the Sherman Oaks Westfields Fashion Square.  And Again, The attendant was awesome!

So When you buy this one, think of all the strong women you are buying it for!

Smile (if you want)

Jes Sofia

Speed up Your Morning Routine

By Michelle Goodman from Las Fabulosas

Busy juggling your kids’ routine, your work emails and countless other to-dos every morning? You probably don’t have time to glam up on your way out the door. The right products and a little preparation can shave an hour off your busy schedule.

Skin
For glowing, killer skin, pamper your cutis the night before, says Jackie Cioffa, celebrity makeup artist and author of the blog Make up to Model Citi Zen. Apply a regenerating serum that’s packed with antioxidants to help protect against photoaging. Then, apply a night cream on your skin and an anti-aging cream under your eyes. Rinse your face and apply a light moisturizer. When you get up in the morning, your skin will be fresh and ready to go.

Lips
Right after you finish brushing your teeth, brush your lips with a wet, rinsed-off toothbrush to remove any dry flakes from chapped lips. Next, apply a moisturizing lip balm. Look for one that isn’t sticky and is full of antioxidants. Then add some color to your lips with a lip stain in a berry color.

Makeup
For a golden glow, mix a liquid bronzer with moisturizer to avoid any shading, and then blend with a brush. It will leave your skin looking fresh and glowing. Next, use a lash curler for an eye-opening lift, says Cioffa. Apply volumizing mascara in your color of choice.

Take a cream-based shadow and sweep it once over your eyelids. Finally, with a synthetic brush, apply concealer under your eyes.

Hair
If you have oily hair but no time for washing and styling, use a dry shampoo, says Rafael Nieves, owner of The Heights Salon of Brooklyn. It will refresh hair and make it look and feel cleaner.

If your tresses are dry, mix a bit of leave-in-conditioner with water in a spray bottle. Shake, spray your hair, shape with your fingers and allow to air dry.

Straight-haired gals: Wrap your hair around your head and cover it with a silk hair wrap overnight. This will prevent tangles in the morning. Remove the silk wrap, brush and you will be ready to go.
Michelle Goodman  is a freelance writer and editor who specializes in beauty and health
issues.

Arroz Con Leche?

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You know, my mom always told me that cooking always make her smile. She was the one who inspired this blog today. I was making some grub… Yes, I love cooking. And I was looking at my mom picture in my kitchen of her cooking… I remember that she use to smile a lot growing up and she felt wanted and needed when she was making us food. Now, I’m happy when she makes arroz con leche and I will attempt to head over to the hood and pick some up.

But sometimes, I just make my own. So why Arroz con Leche? What is this… its like rice pudding with out the pudding. Its a hot rice milky substance… anyway. This is something I think of when I’m feeling sick, in a low mood (no I’m not in a low mood ya) and when I just want to feel close to my mom or my family. You see… My mom made it for us and still does during the cold season… YUM! We woke up or come home from school and have some Arroz con leche. It is the bomb drink, its like having oat meal, but with rice and much tasty-er.

So why am I writing about this? Well… because I figure I’d tell you my most fav drink in the world, and because Arroz con Leche is part of my culture and this is my way I pay tribute to my heritage… with arroz con Leche (translated, milk and rice).   Yum. I think I’m going to make some now…

Have a great day!

Smile (if you want)

Jes Sofia

Like the recipe?

Ingredients:
1 cup of rice.
4 cups of water.
1 cinnamon stick
1 liter of milk 
1/2 pound of sugar
1 tsp of grounded cinnamon
Bring the water to boil, add the rice, cinnamon stick. Let it cook at low heat, stirring occasionally. When the rice is cooked add milk and sugar and let it simmer. Keep on stirring. Cook it to liking. I like mines a bit watery because I like to have it like an atol (thick hot yummy drink). Some people like to add raisins.. I don’t. Some people sprinkle Cinnamon, I do and some nutmeg. Yumm-e! Enjoy!

Do you Belong?

I hear  lot of people… and A LOT of people always tell me that they do not feel that they belong in their family. They don’t understand how or why they were chosen to be in a family like theirs and sometimes, some people wish that they want to belong to another family. Belonging to your family… Think about it, do you really feel you belong in your family all the time? Some may say yes, others no… this really is based on your own experience and your own point of view. So I base my thoughts process today through facts…as usual.

You see… Belonging…belong…According to http://www.dictionary.com/ is:

1. to be in the relation of a member, adherent, inhabitant, etc. (usually followed by to ): He belongs to the Knights of Columbus.

2. to have the proper qualifications, especially social qualifications, to be a member of a group: You don’t belong in this club.
 
3. to be proper or due; be properly or appropriately placed, situated, etc.: Books belong in every home. This belongs on the shelf. He is a statesman who belongs among the great.
 
And all I can relate to family is being a member to a group. You see, your family is a group, weather it be two people or one person. Sometimes your family is connected by a blood line, or others, it can be an emotional attachment. Like when You don’t feel you belong to your Blood line family, are adopted, you tend to have some sore of family. According to Dictionary  #7. this also included Servants. BEHOLD Servants are family too!
Family:
1. a. a basic social unit consisting of parents and their children, considered as a group, whether dwelling together or not: the traditional family.

   b. a social unit consisting of one or more adults together with the children they care for: a single-parent family.
 
2. the children of one person or one couple collectively: We want a large family.
 
3. the spouse and children of one person: We’re taking the family on vacation next week.
 
4. any group of persons closely related by blood, as parents, children, uncles, aunts, and cousins: to marry into a socially prominent family.
 
5. all those persons considered as descendants of a common progenitor.
 
6. Chiefly British . approved lineage, especially noble, titled, famous, or wealthy ancestry: young men of family.
 
7. a group of persons who form a household under one head, including parents, children, and servants.
 
8. the staff, or body of assistants, of an official: the office family.
 
9. a group of related things or people: the family of romantic poets; the halogen family of elements.
 
10. a group of people who are generally not blood relations but who share common attitudes, interests, or goals and, frequently, live together: Many hippie communes of the sixties regarded themselves as families.
 
A family usually is what you make of it. You can choose to belong and be accepted for who you are, or not accepted for who you are…regardless its your choice. Some get over their moments of not feeling belonged and then end us feeling like they do…So Like i said…The way you CHOOSE to VIEW if you belong or not, is your choice. The fact that you belong to a family is a fact. You will always be a part of a family. Weather it be your blood line, your friends, your work, something… Someone will always care for you even though it may not feel like it at times. So when you go through the moments or facts that your family doesn’t want you or care about you… you will find someone in your family, friendships or else where that usually you can call family and know you belong there.
 
Note: I never mentioned you belong to someone…the only person you truly BELONG to is yourself. No ones else. But your can always be a member of some group.
 
Have you ever felt like you don’t belong?
 
Smile (if you want)
 

Coach and Me

Kristin Collection

Do you ever just go shopping and hope that someone will just buy you something you want because of that same very reason, because you want it?

Well it happens once in a blue moon for me. If I don’t buy it… (miss independent). No one really else does…until now! I already knew the meaning of gifts… it was so nice to give them, I’m usually the giver, but i found that its also so nice to get them too.

Don’t you love to be thought of like this? I give all the time…but its nice to get it back. 

Don’t just give, learn to receive and don’t just receive, learn to give.


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   And the Sales rep at the Honolulu Store was the Best!

Smile (if you want) 


Jes Sofia

Woman’s Moment, What men can do to help.

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Have you even hear of a “woman’s moment?” This is where you feel the need to be needy and cuddled and just be the princess of the world? I will not lie, I have gone through one, two months ago!  It’s been to the point where I just wanted my significant other to just _(fill in your choice)_ to shut me up. Particularly when I’ve freaked out and I cannot use my words… It’s called a tantrum (being honest). lol

The Funny thing is that EVERY woman I know has gone through one of these ever so often. I don’t care what profession you are in, you have had one at some point. It’s a Mars vs. Venus moment and you just have to go with the flow if you want her. If you don’t, you have a great opportunity to pin it on her and jet out. (but you know you just didn’t want to put in the work). 

….At the end of the day, a woman just wants to be held, heard and felt wanted.

So MEN… here are some ways to cope through this… Are you ready?

1. Sit down and ask “What is wrong?”
2. Listen, don’t talk or try to tell her what to do (unless she asks)
3. Hug her, cuddle, kiss do your manly duties
4. Make her feel like a princess…
5. Once she is calm and happy, tell her what she did was not cool because (enter your words on how you thought and felt when she was going through it).
6. Do not shut down…. It makes it worse. It becomes a cycle and they loose trust.
7. The next time she does it follow 1-5.

With time, she will know that she doesn’t have to go through her tantrum to get your attention or be afraid that you will be mad or shut down. As long as you are consistent you will be fine and she will be happy… “Happy wife, Happy life.”  Happy Husband, Happy ____… (whatever you want to make it).

I hope this helps a little. 

Smile (if you want)

Jes Sofia

Agree or Disagree?  And women take accountability for it too. 😉

Being Treated like….

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Ever hear the saying… treat others how you want to be treated? I don’t know anyone who doesn’t say this… I say it all the time. But how about, Asked or tell others how you want to be treated– I sure don’t hear a lot of people say that…

We live in an era where unless you say how you feel on facebook, twitter or some social media people don’t really ask how you are, or communicate much at all… as in “old school” talking on the phone for hours or take the time to write a letter.  Most people are busy with their lives and really don’t make time for one another (at least this is my anecdotal view). People are so busy.. working, taking care of kids, cooking, Making sure the world is turning. Om I’m blabbing now… back to the point.

SO… Why do you allow yourself to be treated how you don’t want to be? Or even why do you allow others to be treated in a mal form?

I can guess… you don’t want to cause trouble… right?

Well… I have some news… There is something called speaking out, Ever heard of it? LOL (not being mean… your probably saying, don’t write to me like that!) Well, good for you if you are!

Speaking up, saying  how you want to be treated, telling them your needs, wants, thoughts, and feelings to someone else is telling them how, what, when, where, why you want things done that way. The way I see it, if someone doesn’t tell me, they can’t be mad at me because

1. I cannot read minds
2. I cannot read minds
3. There is no reason to be mad at me if I did something you did not like if you did not tell me you do not like that… How AM I SUPPOSE to know?
4. I cannot read minds and
5. I’m not a mind reader.   I think i got my point across.

There is however, self accountability, meaning…if you feel or KNOW you have offended, hurt or made someone mad, follow up with your instincts.  Ask the person to please…Don’t be mad when I ask because I’m actually asking.  A way you can say this is… “Hey, I’m going to ask you something, but I want to listen to your answer, not want to have to guess or move away because of anger.” Sometimes people will say… yeah man or wo-man, you did this and this made me feel or think…. or sometimes people will say, nope.  And if they say no, you have to take that for face value.  They cannot (well, they can, but not cool if they do) and say hey your an idiot and you didn’t know…. You did your part to ask.

SO… again, The next time you are not being treated how you want to be treated, tell the person. Don’t go all ghetto talking about… uhg.. you Beep beep beep you.. you are beep.. non-of that kids…
Be open and calm about it… people respond better when you are calm (because they are listening and not trying to avoid the drama).

I hope you speak up. How do you like to be treated?

Smile (if you want)
Jes Sofia

My Story with L’Occitane

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My story with L’Occitane
Onc day, My mom came home from work…with a HUGE bar of soap. I was use not knowing what i was washing myself with… but at age 13, I found out what it meant to be happy with washing myself. She had given me a Bar of Lavandar L’Occitane. The smell…. its like sitting in a field of lavander plants… where the day is crispy, the sun warm and you hear the birds flying by… peaceful. It has been the only thing at the end of my day that helps me reduce my tension after a SUPER duper interesting day of hearing my awesome patient’s lives.
I get home, shower and get ready for bed. It such a relaxing sent I buy the whole set. I’ve used it since I was 13… I don’t think I will stop.
Funny thing was that two weeks ago my dad asked me where he could get the same type of soap. It was nice. I had, of course, an extra bar. So i gave it to him… now I buy double when I go to the store. Since I was 13… can’t beat that for loyalty.
I say you try it. Let me know how much you like it! 🙂
Smile (if you want)

Being Sad does not always mean you are Depressed.

Have you ever heard someone tell you that they are feeling depressed? And the first thing you think of is sadness? I do ALL the time, I mean after all I’m a Psychotherapist. Kinda in my Job description right?

Well, Here is a big misnomer. Being Sad does NOT always mean you are depressed.
Being sad is a feeling. Being Depressed is Diagnosis.

So What is depression? Here is what depression is…
Depression may occur at almost any stage of life. A child, teen or a middle or old age person can have it. It can be caused by various ways, which then lead to chemical changes in the brain. And example of these variables can be, biological changes, social isolation, getting older, genetic traits, emotional losses, traumatic experiences,  and dysfunctional interpersonal relationships, are some of the main common triggers for the symptoms of depression.
There are many types of depression, which include major depressive disorder, bipolar depressive disorder, psychotic depressive disorder, postpartum depression, premenstrual dysphoric disorder, and seasonal disorder. All these are diagnosed through a clinician and are according to the time and length of the symptoms.  
Symptoms vary according to the individual. Five or more of the following symptoms must be present during the same 2-week period.
  • Trouble sleeping or excessive sleeping (nearly everyday)
  • A dramatic change in appetite, often with weight gain or loss (5% +/- in a month)
  • Fatigue and lack of energy
  • Feelings of worthlessness, self-hate, inappropriate guilt, feels sad and empty
  • Extreme difficulty concentrating
  • Agitation, restlessness, and irritability
  • Inactivity and withdrawal from usual activities (loss of pleasure in things)
  • Feelings of hopelessness and helplessness (nearly everyday)
  • Recurring thoughts of death or suicide (not just fear of dying)
Possible Situational Times:
  • During The teen years,  children go through hormonal changes… you remember those? where no one could tell you anything?  
  • Prego women…after childbirth. 
  • Women, before, during menopause.
  • Any life altering change.
  • Men during their MENopause… they begin to loose testosterone. (grumpy old men).
  • Grandparents becoming mean after 60 because their hearts don’t work the same. 
  •  Your back is in a lot of pain all or some of the time. 
  • You have cancer or any other type of medical diagnosis; this can be a hard time.   
 So next time you say I am depressed… think about it. Are you self diagnosing yourself or are you FEELING sad? 
I hope this helps.  
Smile (if you want),

Are your Ideas becoming your reality?

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There is a lot going on in the financial world recently… points going down in the market, then back up and back down as if a snotty 7 year old was playing yo-yo… Where is the safety in that?

I doubt you have really thought about it, a lot of us have are so busy in our Mico aspect of our lives, that we forget to include the Macro (overall picture). Like… where will we be in 5-10 years.

Think about it… in 5-10 years? I have heard a lot of people tell me, I stopped asking that back in high school or collage because I was young then… well I have news for you! You are STILL not old. (you can hug me for that compliment later…LOL)  Most people don’t even start to begin to be settled by age 30. (and for those that are younger and establish Hurray!)

So what are you going to do about that?

I present this…. 13 Feet 13 Inches Take a look at it and think about it.
Let them know how they can help you. Helping your Ideas come to Life.

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