Questions to Find a Positive you.

I come across a lot of people who want to find themselves. Most of them are still finding themselves. Others are going through a “midlife crisis” and other just have never had the opportunity to get to know themselves. 
Today I want to give you a few Questions to learn how to BEGIN to find a positive self. Honestly, you are always growing so you will ALWAYS find something great about you when you are looking for it. 
Some of the questions are: 
*THINK POSITIVE* (That was a Statement) 🙂
Questions: 
What are positive things about you?  
If you need some help here are some basic ones to start you off: 
You are currently reading, breathing, here, alive and you have a life.
So you can start by stating: “I am _____(fill in the gap with a positive)” 
What do you Like to do that helps you have a Moment of feeling free and alive with out hurting your self (mind, body and Spirit) ? 
It is important to know your likes in this world. They are the things that allow you to keep on going. 


DEFINITELY NOT THIS: 

Who do you enjoy life with? 
The people you allow in your life are the people who encourage you, think positive, have hope and make sure you are doing well from time to time, sometimes on a daily or weekly. 
You don’t have any? They start talking to someone. Go to meet ups. Go to the places you enjoy and see who else has things in common with you. 
How do you enjoy life? 

The things you do to enjoy life are the things that give you passion, drive and ambition. They help you to where you need to get to.

Need help with this? Ask a friend out and let them help you…just tell them what you are going through.

Who do you allow in your life? And What positive “ness” do they bring to you? 
This is an important questions because although you may be strong, we are usually almost always influenced by the people we surround ourselves with in our lives. 

This means we have to go out there and surround ourselves. 
What do you want to accomplish today? 
Remember that Small goals get you to the bigger ones.
Do goals that you know you can reach and then keep on accomplishing the goals.

Give your self a Mantra to live by. 
Mine is: Keep Me Positive, Happy, Healthy and Stay ALIVE
You are enough for what you want to do in life. AND know that doing things with other people is what human kind is all about. Working with others allows you to grow and allows you to learn more. I hope this helps you to Begin to think Positive! Now go out there and make you happen. 🙂

If you need further assistance there are many Many Mental Health people who want help you.
If you are having thoughts of harming yourself please call 911.

Smile (If you want to),

Grief & Loss

Losing someone I’ve noticed has been very hard in this lifetime. We miss the essence of the person, the moments spent and we morn the future we hoped with the person. We will no longer see them.

Something I’ve also learned is the grieving of the person has different stages in life. Why am I writing about this? Well, we have had a loss in my family and recently a few losses in this country and its hard. But more so, to actually have knowledge of what you are going through when you loose someone also helps. These feelings are called the stages of grief. The reason why this is good to know because it helps you understand and it takes away the feeling that your are going “crazy” when all you are doing is grieving. 

Now Before I tell you about these stages I must tell you that there are more ways to feel grief, its not just because you loose someone. This happens when you loose a friend, when you break up with someone, and I’m going to be true to my personality right now… moving up in the world.

There are 5 stages most human go through when they morn someone.

1 Denial It’s a defense mechanism and perfectly natural. 
2  Anger Anger can be seen in many forms ways. This all depends on a person, it can range from not saying anything to hurting themselves, to hurting other. Or Isolating. Everyone deals with sadness in their own way.  
3 Bargaining Asking God to bring them back. This is where a person ask for their loved one back. They beg God to bring them back or they even try to bargain their pain to go away. 
4 Depression
Depression is actually a clump of symptoms (sadness, not being able to eat or sleep, weight gain, loss, anger, isolation, loss of  concentration, feeling hopeless and helpless, can’t control negative thinking, irritable, short-tempenred, reckless behavior, thoughts of not worth living). Note: This can be different for children. 
5 – Acceptance

Some emotional detachment and objectivity. This can happen before or after someone has gone out of your life.

One of the biggest things that you have to remember is that everyone lives and dies. Death is not something that we can avoid. HOWEVER, life and LIVING is something you can ENJOY.  
Life is a piece of cake. Making the cake has a process. Going through this will help you get through.
Smile (If you want) 

When too much is too much

 

Looks like there are times where there is too much going on. We say yes to a lot and at the end of the day we need to learn to say NO. This yes thing in turn causes us stress. Did you know that stress can cause health issues? Stress is known to be associated with affecting your overall health.
Some issues that can come about stress are:

Mental health disorders, like depression and anxiety
High Blood Pressure
Obesity
Abnormal heart beats
Heart disease
High blood pressure
and other issues.

WHY can stress cause this?  Hormones. The body responds to stress by emitting stress hormones. All the flight or fight hormones come out and make things happen… stuff we don’t want to happen (see list above).

So what can you do to help decrease this stress thing?

I can tell you from my experience what I have done:

You can say NO to things. Saying Yes to everything will take a toll.
You can make a few nights where you vegg. (I make these days Catching up with Books and DVR nights)
You can stop, sit and breath (in through your nose, out through your mouth)
You can exercises: YOGA!  #dailywalks
You can do things that make you happy. 
You can catch up and talk with your friend on the phone.
Go out with your friends.
You can write in your journal.
Massage…
Dude… the list is long.

The point is that you do things that don’t cause you stress. If you are stressing over what to do to not have stress, then stop and just sit down and do nothing. Oooh Child! you need to relax before you get to the Wren & Stimpy pic. I hope this reminds you that its ok to sit and chill.

I’m off to chill more now.

Smile (if you want),

Jes Sofia

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South Beach Model Latina: Healthy Competition

South Beach is already one of my top favorite destinations I enjoy going to. It is like Beverly Hills for Latinos I think. Everywhere you go, you see hot men and women looking their best and enjoying the sun. So the fact that Latina Model was shot in South Beach makes much sense to me. Where else can you see Hot Latinas walking around in bathing suits in the city and have it be normal?
This year’s Model Latina will bring some healthy competition.
The ten hot contestants will be in their own competition. Having a friendly competition… it is never bad, I think. Not only will the Model Latina girls be competing with one another, the girls will also be defiantly competing for my attention. This year, the show was very kind and thought of giving us ladies some eye candy with Carlos Ponce!  
I repeat myself, this year I believe the girls will be in some friendly competition with the host. Meet Model Latina South Beach‘s sexy Inner Circle of Cool: Carlos Ponce, Ines Rivero, Franco Lacosta andJocelyn Pierce. Ooooh child! Defiantly sometime I am looking forward in watching.
So Tonight when you are “winding down” from all the weekend fun you have had this Memorial Weekend. Wind it back up and watch and of course enjoy your evening with nuvoTV’s new hot show Model Latina South Beach.  
Here is a glimpse of what you will see… it is so good, I can’t wait for you to see it HERE!
Then, after you watch, follow them on Twitter and Facebook to stay on top of what everyone is saying about the show… I can’t wait to get your response and tell me what you think!  
Keep it hot and Smile (if you want),
 
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