A Balance: Social Media, Social Networking, Education and Your Life

Many people call Social Media/Networking a distraction of the education (lessons) life wants you to learn…

People run the world with the ability to obtain access to everything, very fast. One click you are there. I remember my path with Social networking… for me it was Yahoo Chat. I was 15 (dating myself much?) I was chatting online in school with my girlfriends…we would then play volleyball and talk about the “weird” people we had met online. Yet, we were excited to go back and find out more about them. It was exciting.

At age 17 I was meeting friends all over the globe. I was now talking to them, Communicating because it was not enough to just chat with them all day, I wanted to hear their voice, know how they laughed… how they began.

In college… I was meeting with business people… networking. Making meetings and being aware of what life was bringing to me…even though I did not know it.

Now, I’m inspired. I’ve had opportunities to meet people I’d never in my dreams thought I would meet. I’m connected with not only old friends, but also new people that are making a difference in the world.

Recently, I was in Hawaii. Meeting up with a man filled with passion, and interest in helping Latinos, but not only Latinos, everyone. Which to me was awesome! And to tell you a bit of the Hawaiian-Latino Culture… they are not like here in the “main land.” They don’t care where you are from, most are educated and they seem to just be chill and open to help. No hesitation, you ask and you shall receive. It is a population like no other, At least to me they have been.

I’ve met people making things happen, make the world go round…it may not be the whole world, but the world of many others. This is what I appreciate about Social Networking.  I’ve met people that have taught me so much about life… so much about they’re pain, their past and possible futures. I’ve been street educated through social media (business wise); I’ve been educated by other’s lives.

Which brings me back to Life… As I sit on my super comfy chair, I’ve found that life is a treasure, and everyday I communicate to you, I find my insight about who I am, who I want to be and Who I am becoming I hope when you read this you find Insight on who you are, who you are becoming and who you want to be come. And are open to making life a better place for you… But please don’t forget that life with out living is not much of a life… The world is meant to be seen yes… but also touched and felt. So I leave you to make up your mind with this:
 
Adding all the wonderful “distractions” may make it beyond exciting… Or does it? Its your own point of view…tell me about it.
Smile(If you want)
Jes Sofia

The Education of a Psychotherapist…

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You know, Everyday I work with children and their families. They come to us  (I use us…as I am part of a cohort of an awesome group) for help for something that seems to be bothering them, emotionally hurting them, moreover, someone hurting them.  And in the years I have worked in this field I have learned that Therapy is more than just providing mental health services… Therapy.  A lot has to do with the education about mental health we provide the children and families we work with. Like, What is Mental health? how does therapy work? are there consequences to being in therapy?

Various questions are always asked. So today, I applaud my fellow therapist. Because we educate. We may not be the scholarly awesome school teachers, but we are the people that educate you and yours how to label an emotion. How to better control yourself. We educate your parents, and if you are a parent we help you how to work with your child. We guide you to find your own insight and have you find your solution to your problems, issues, glitches, hiccups, mask… call it what you may. We actively listen to you, at times we are emotional punching bags for you the one grieving, hurting, in pain, even when you succeed. We applaud your success… educate you that being happy about something may not be wrong and sometimes it may not be appropriate.

So when I think of education, I think of what I do, every day! In session, with children and families. We psycho-educate you and yours with what Mental Illness is and what Mental HEALTH is. Yes, Health…as in the healthy part of you. What allows you to be a human and help you go through things you never thought you would be able to go through. So to my psychotherapist friends… I applaud your educational skills, more precisely, your psycho-educational skills. You are educators too.

And Let me not forget… we thank you for teaching us how to work with you too. 🙂 

Props.

Smile (if you want to)

Jes Sofia

Decorating Tips From the Spa

Decorating Tips From the Spa

By Shelley Levitt for The Style Glossy

Even without the massage, body wrap or facial, spending a few hours in a spa is a great way to relax. That’s because the smells, sights and textures that surround you are themselves antidotes to stress. Having your favorite massage therapist on call 24/7 would be relaxing, we’ll admit. But these decorating tricks from some top spas are the next best way to make your day-to-day life at home more serene.

1. Bring the outside in. Natural elements soothe. At the spa at Colorado’s Vail Mountain Lodge and Spa, the art includes branches sprayed with silver and gold paint and affixed to the walls with dowels and wire. For an even easier do-it-yourself project, simply place branches in a vase. Taniya Nayak, host of HGTV’s “House Hunters on Vacation,” loves to include pieces made of natural wood, like a rustic bench or a carved wooden bowl, in the homes she designs. Or, consider hanging a group of wooden picture frames in different shapes and sizes on a wall. “Don’t put anything inside the frames — not even a piece of glass,” says Nayak. “The frames themselves are the art.”

2. Engage your sense of smell. Bring home the “aaahhhh” scent of a spa with reed diffusers. As essential oils seep up the wood stems, which are housed in a glass cylinder, the scent wafts throughout the room. You can find a wide collection at Pier 1 Imports. Search online for the Archipelago collection — which is available in that spa staple, eucalyptus and dozens of other scents from arugula to verbena — or for Red Flower’s organic diffusers in scents like jasmine and orange blossom.

3. Remember the five natural elements. Incorporate wood, fire, metal, earth and water. For fire, consider flameless candles and tea lights. “These protect your home from candle-related fires, but still give you the ambiance of the perfect spa escape,” says Mindy Terry, president of the consulting company Creative Spa Concepts. Terry’s favorite way to introduce metal is with Tibetan singing bowls. Made from an alloy containing copper, tin, zinc, iron and other metals, “they’re not only beautiful; they’re also an interesting conversation piece.” Plus, they appeal to your sense of sound. Simply tap the rim of the bowl with the mallet and the vibrations will produce crystal-clear tones. You can find both antique and modern versions of the bowls online.

4. Use transparent materials. Glass hurricane vases, for example, will help to create a sense of light and airiness. At the spa at The Ritz-Carlton, Los Angeles, orchids and lilies are submerged in tall vases — a clean, crisp and uncluttered way to introduce water and earth elements in your home. “These simple arrangements add a sense of movement to your space and keep your environment dynamic,” says Jennifer Kleen, the spa’s designer.

5. Keep colors harmonious — but not dull. When interior designer Warren Sheets chose the colors for the Renaissance-inspired spa at the luxurious Grand Del Mar resort in San Diego, he wanted them to be “simple and soothing.” But instead of a monotonous palette of white and beige, he mixed earthy creams with warm slate hues and ecru, and “to lend energy and life,” he used azure blue as an accent color. “Restricting color to various shades of the same family imbues a relaxed feeling, while also evoking a positive energy,” says Sheets. Nayak suggests choosing a paint color for your walls, such as teal blue — and then adding white to make it 50 percent lighter for your ceiling. “A spa vibe doesn’t have to be Zen and quiet,” she says. “It can be hip and modern and still serene.”

Photo credit: Jerry Atnip

Shelley Levitt managing editor of The Style Glossy, is a former West Coast editor of SELF and senior writer at People.

Coach for Cure

The last time I bough a purse it had a lot of meaning to me because It was my little coach purse I take into all my sessions. The Little but VERY FABULOUS Pink purse.  First of, I carry it because it reminds me of what can be overcome by strong women all over the world. It reminds me of things I’ve gone through, but most of all its pink, which reminds me that no matter who or where you are at as long as you have yourself, your love for you and others, I will be OK.

This one I bought at the Sherman Oaks Westfields Fashion Square.  And Again, The attendant was awesome!

So When you buy this one, think of all the strong women you are buying it for!

Smile (if you want)

Jes Sofia

Do you Belong?

I hear  lot of people… and A LOT of people always tell me that they do not feel that they belong in their family. They don’t understand how or why they were chosen to be in a family like theirs and sometimes, some people wish that they want to belong to another family. Belonging to your family… Think about it, do you really feel you belong in your family all the time? Some may say yes, others no… this really is based on your own experience and your own point of view. So I base my thoughts process today through facts…as usual.

You see… Belonging…belong…According to http://www.dictionary.com/ is:

1. to be in the relation of a member, adherent, inhabitant, etc. (usually followed by to ): He belongs to the Knights of Columbus.

2. to have the proper qualifications, especially social qualifications, to be a member of a group: You don’t belong in this club.
 
3. to be proper or due; be properly or appropriately placed, situated, etc.: Books belong in every home. This belongs on the shelf. He is a statesman who belongs among the great.
 
And all I can relate to family is being a member to a group. You see, your family is a group, weather it be two people or one person. Sometimes your family is connected by a blood line, or others, it can be an emotional attachment. Like when You don’t feel you belong to your Blood line family, are adopted, you tend to have some sore of family. According to Dictionary  #7. this also included Servants. BEHOLD Servants are family too!
Family:
1. a. a basic social unit consisting of parents and their children, considered as a group, whether dwelling together or not: the traditional family.

   b. a social unit consisting of one or more adults together with the children they care for: a single-parent family.
 
2. the children of one person or one couple collectively: We want a large family.
 
3. the spouse and children of one person: We’re taking the family on vacation next week.
 
4. any group of persons closely related by blood, as parents, children, uncles, aunts, and cousins: to marry into a socially prominent family.
 
5. all those persons considered as descendants of a common progenitor.
 
6. Chiefly British . approved lineage, especially noble, titled, famous, or wealthy ancestry: young men of family.
 
7. a group of persons who form a household under one head, including parents, children, and servants.
 
8. the staff, or body of assistants, of an official: the office family.
 
9. a group of related things or people: the family of romantic poets; the halogen family of elements.
 
10. a group of people who are generally not blood relations but who share common attitudes, interests, or goals and, frequently, live together: Many hippie communes of the sixties regarded themselves as families.
 
A family usually is what you make of it. You can choose to belong and be accepted for who you are, or not accepted for who you are…regardless its your choice. Some get over their moments of not feeling belonged and then end us feeling like they do…So Like i said…The way you CHOOSE to VIEW if you belong or not, is your choice. The fact that you belong to a family is a fact. You will always be a part of a family. Weather it be your blood line, your friends, your work, something… Someone will always care for you even though it may not feel like it at times. So when you go through the moments or facts that your family doesn’t want you or care about you… you will find someone in your family, friendships or else where that usually you can call family and know you belong there.
 
Note: I never mentioned you belong to someone…the only person you truly BELONG to is yourself. No ones else. But your can always be a member of some group.
 
Have you ever felt like you don’t belong?
 
Smile (if you want)
 

Fall Back with Michael Kors!

It’s that time of the year! My favorite! When the air is cooler, crisper at nights and I have to look for something to warm me up! Yes, its Fall ladies and Gents! I’m Happy to announce that this fall I am a few pounds lighter and I still am able to wear my sweet sweet Michael Kors

This fall you will find  that my picks are what else than awesomeness. Gold! Brown! (my favorite color) and shimmer (a girls friend).  A color that looks awesome an Latina Women! (Happy Heritage month ya’ll).

So this is the pieces I’m IN LOVE with this fall…

I know… it is calling your name. Michael call my name every season too! One of my faves! You can buy online http://www.michaelkors.com/

Do you like my pics of the MK season?

Smile (if you want)

Jes Sofia

Independant Woman with Lafayette148 New York

 

Plus-Size Causeway Stripe Ellen Blouse,Plus-Size:What's New

There is something about Stripes that make an Independent woman seem that much more independent. I’m happy with strips. It makes my body look curvy in the right places. So when I saw Lafayette148’s new Blouse, I feel in love with it. I want it. 🙂 Imagine me in it? HOT!  Going into the office looking and feelings like a million bucks. Check out this season’s Line at http://www.lafayette148ny.com

I think being Independent is part of looking and feeling Independent. But some sugar helps too. 🙂 

What makes you feel independent?

Pumpkin and Spice and everything nice.

Smile (if you want)

Jes Sofia

Hi Charlie…. Charlie’s Angels GIVEAWAY!

I have always thought that inside all of my girlfriends there has always been an Angel… a Charlie’s Angels of course!… They seem to kick ass at whatever they do and they are always looking great! So I’m excited that Drew Barrymore, the Executive Producer of Charlie’s Angels has made this happen! See it on Thursday, September 22 at 8/7c on ABC. 

 Set in Miami, this fun, glamorous, action-packed take on the 1970s smash hit series introduces us to three new angels, all fearless detectives, head-turning beauties and close friends. There’s Abby (Rachael Taylor), a Park Avenue princess who became a world-class thief. Then there’s Kate (Annie Ilonzeh), a Miami cop who fell from grace, loosing both her career and her fiancé. Finally there’s Gloria, a disgraced army lieutenant who has a way with explosives. When one of the angels’ missions ends in Gloria’s tragic death, Charlie persuades them to partner with Gloria’s childhood friend, Eve (Minka Kelly), a street racer with a mysterious past. They may not know each other yet, but one thing’s for sure — Abby, Kate and Eve will always have each others’ backs.

So Here is how to win the GIVEAWAY! 

One (1) winner will receive:

 $50 Visa Cash Card! Let Charlie Heat Up Your Wardrobe with a Visa Cash Card!

 All you have to do are Four simple steps:

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3. Send on Twitter:   “Hi @Jessofiavalle & @CharliesAngels Hi Charlie! I’m An Angel Too! #CharliesAngels” Use #CharliesAngels As much as you can!

4. Leave a Comment telling me How you are a charlie’s Angel!

The Winner will be notified Via Twitter and JesSofiaSays FaceBook Page After the Season Premiere Thursday, September 22nd 8/7c