Ten ways to know that you have a Doctor who cares.

There are a lot of doctors in this world. Not all doctors treat the same. Some are wham bam thank you ma’am! and others take thier time to listen. For some, the first approach is perfect for them. There are a lot of people that just like to know what the doctor thinks and leaves. Just like there are others who need the hug and care. Not everyone is build the same when it comes how we receive care… everyone has a different personality. And today i’m writing on the basics of caring is…along with giving you ten ways to know how to receive and look for care!

First of all, what is caring, and how is it seen? That in its self is like beauty… in the eye of the beholder to be honest. According to the Oxford Dictionary, Care can be seen as a noun or a verb.

“Noun:

The provision of what is necessary for the health, welfare, maintenance, and protection of someone or something.

‘the care of the elderly’

‘the child is safe in the care of her grandparents’

‘health care’

Serious attention or consideration applied to doing something correctly or to avoid damage or risk.

‘he planned his departure with great care’

An object of concern or attention.

‘the cares of family life’

A feeling of or occasion for anxiety.

‘she was driving along without a care in the world’

Verb:

(often with negative) Feel concern or interest; attach importance to something.

‘they don’t care about human life’

with clause ‘I don’t care what she says’

Feel affection or liking.

‘you care very deeply for him’

Care for something/care to do something Like or be willing to do or have something.

‘would you care for some tea?’

‘I don’t care to listen to him’

Care for Look after and provide for the needs of.

‘he has numerous animals to care for’ ” (Oxford Dictionaries)

….. *Fingers breathe!* that is a whole lotta caring! lol

Back to the Tens…

So see… caring on its own is a lot. I want you to think about yourself because looking for a doctor that fits you is very important. What do you think Care is…That is also what is important to realize too. And how do you obtain it?

Here are some says to help you choose and help you think through:

  1. Do You feel safe with your doctor to tell them the truth enough for them to care? It is important to be able to honest with your doctor on how you are feeling. It is one of many most important ways they are able to help you. May it be your internists, chiropractor, psychologist… people in the health field are there to help and serve you to become the best you can be!
  2. Does your doctor ask questions? If your doctor is not asking questions (especially in the beginning), I would think twice about that Doctor. Because Doctors NEED to ask questions (even though some of the questions may sound weird). How else to they know whats up with you? I mean I get someone telling the doctor everything..but a few questions are necessary still (so my doctor friends tell me).
  3. Are you in the right specialist? does your doctor

Online Dating

Love or fuxe!

So I just got back from my friends wedding! They met online and this is officially the 5th couple I’ve had in my life that has gone through the motion of being in love with another human.

so I decided to jump into the pool… apparently the first fish that tried to catch me was a sardine… you know not everyone likes sardines. Especially when they are fishy…

and all I can tell you is make sure that you stay on the app until you feel better, have gotten to know them.. and make sure that you give your place in how you are treated. Thank Goodness I followed my instincts!! Because! People will be people and act like fishies!

but enough about that! Here are some tips for online dating!

  1. Follow your instincts.
  2. Read the safety manual on all sites. Every site will tell you and give you hints in what not to do and how not to get enveloped in a hardship… I mean relationships. 😜
  3. Verify yourself. and talk to people who are also verified.
  4. Ask for what you do allow and set limits on what you don’t allow in your life.
    if you like short people then talk to short people. If you like giant people because tbey can make you feel safe…. Then Date gigantor!
  5. and Be yourself. The more you are you, the more you practice on being the real you with everyone.
  6. Have fun and attract people filled with joy! Because you are worth it!
  7. Go to sleep! Maintain your healthy habits! People who really want to talk to you will do so and respect your time.
  8. Don’t wait too long to long to go on a date.
  9. Do not give people money! If they ask- it could be a person trying to steal stuff. It’s like rule number one but I didn’t want to scare you until now… I mean well not at all… just caution you if being too nice to people sad stories.
  10. and last but not least- please post current pictures! Ain’t no one trying to date you from ten years ago! We want to see the black and white hair ya! Show them Chomps! And be happy!

Make it fun to explore,

Enjoy the process!
-Jes

and yes I’m still single ya! Smh 🤦🏽‍♀️ me! Lol

Ever wonder what life has planned for you today when you wake up as oppose to making plans for yourself today?

Ever wonder what would happen if you decided to allow your day to flow instead of having to manage it or control it if make yourself feel stressed?

I do. I did this morning. I wondered… what if I didn’t do my own schedule, see clients, go to the ? dog store to get food, go to the ?? human store to get food… and go back home to enjoy a relax and enjoy my being at home after a hard day. Then I snapped out of it…

I looked at my schedule and saw I ended to hurry up to head to the gym.

Ever just wonder? I wonder how our Presidents and Queens and Kings do this… I think there is something to not knowing all that is coming to you in the end.

Just wondering… what you think?

Smile (if you want to)

Jes

How are you?

Welcome back!

I’m back! I was on hiatus for a year…yup! Taking care of me! I practice what I preached because I really needed to. Things happen and I learned so much from this year. This year is filled with several themes on our blog. I’ll be writing about most of keeping sane (what is that?!) in our everyday basic (not so basic) lives. Of course with my history and knowledge of being a people-listener-and-helper twist on it. My voice is a lot louder now, so I hope you enjoy our post this year.

Xoxo

Jes

Let’s start with: How are you?

Have you ever asked yourself this question more than once a week? (0/)… wait…. Do you even ask yourself this question?

Don’t feel bad. Not many people do. I’ve learned to ask myself this question because I have to. We tend to forget about ourselves much tooooooo often and the “How are you?” is hardly ever answered. Sometimes we do ask ourselves, “How are you?” but do you even answer it honestly?

Most of the time we leave this answer and never give it the response it deserves… why? “Well…to take care of other important things…”  Ummm hummm I see you shaking your head because you just realized you haven’t asked yourself… lol

Here are five ways to actually answer this question. Ready?

  1. Write down on a post-it or journal “How are you?” then follow it by actually writing it down on paper your answer. This may cause you to realize a lot of crazy in your life. But that’s ok. You are not alone on this term… everyone has something going on in their lives in some way, shape or another. It’s good to realize the bad and the good.
  2. Record “How are you (HAY)?” on your phone and by the end of the week you should have a narrative of how you where during the week. Imagine? Just asking you HAY five times… that’s funny… Actually answering it would be great. No? ….. Yes! 😀
  3. Write down in your “I am grateful box” how you are doing and why you are happy that you are doing how you are doing… say that ten times! XP Sometimes your “How” may be negative and you don’t want to answer it…
    1. Following it up with what you are grateful for (you are breathing, you are alive, you can scream on the top of your lungs that you feel CRAPPY and are having a not so good unhappy moment…. Followed by you are able to do just that O.o) helps you work through the negative feelings and moments for a bit.
    2. Life is not so bad when you realize that you are still breathing. Unless you don’t want to do that… then I will HIGHLY recommend you ask for help and get support. (B. I wasn’t messing around…)
  4. Have a “How you are doing buddy.” Someone that actually asks you “How are you?” every day. Note: This will get old on both ends after one month… so I tried. So try having various people ask. Or just get a therapist you go to once a week to ask you about your week. I’m SURE they will ask and listen to all you have to say! Ha-ha
  5. You don’t have to ask yourself how you are doing every day! This is your life! Empower what you need to and if you need to. You can do it once a week, twice a week or every other week. The point: Is to ask yourself how you are doing!

I hope you are able to check on yourself ever so often. I would recommend you talk to people before you do decide to change something drastic in yourself or life and find a team of friends and people who will support you while you asking “How are you?” Sometimes the outcomes are not what you expect… are they ever? Yes, sometimes they are.

Enjoy asking yourself…. How are you?

 

Smile (if you want),

Jes

 

What is Blogging?

I still get asked what is blogging. I usually say it’s creativity. A place/page/site where you are able to express yourself, your ideas, promote a business, like your journal… pretty much anything you want to make it.Blogging has changed a lot in the past few years. There are rules and consequences, unlike when I started. And things have changed so I say have fun! Do your research and make it fun!

“Blogging
[blawg, blog]
noun
1. a website containing a writer’s or group of writers’ own experiences, observations, opinions,etc., and often having images and links to other websites.

2. a single entry or post on such a website:

She regularly contributes a blog to themagazine’s website.
verb (used without object)blogged,blogging.
3. to maintain or add new entries to a blog.
verb (used with object)blogged, blogging.

4. to express or write about on a blog:

She’s been blogging her illness for almost a year.”
blogging. (n.d.). Dictionary.com Unabridged. Retrieved August 15, 2016 from Dictionary.com website http://www.dictionary.com/browse/blogging

The Living Breath Project: Think. Listen. Breathe.

Think. Listen. Breathe.

Think about 42. Forty-Two Feelings to work through, actualize seven emotions that help you accomplish living life. I was influenced by someone today that has worked 20 years on helping others doing that.

Meet Genie O’Malley. She is an author, humanitarian, and social entrepreneur, teaches individuals the importance of Emotional Wellness as the governing force of our relationships to others, our quality of living, and our potential in life.

She states “quite often individuals are taught to disconnect to feeling and emotions, fearing the outcome will be to fall apart and lose control of their lives. O’Malley understands through both her professional and personal life that individuals draw self-power through the vulnerability of life circumstances, teaching others that reconciling our experiences emotionally directs our lives into success and self-approval.”

I asked her one question only.

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How did she start your digital download?

“Over the past 21 years, I discussed, tested, lectured, created products, wrote publications, and built multiple platforms of distribution for the Living Breath Process nationally with much acclaim. With QUICK START Emotional Wellness Companion I was able to touch on both how the invention came to fruition as well as take the individual on a journey of how it has touched the lives of over 270,000 people as it began to discover itself.”

The Living Breath Project has assisted individuals, families, and communities by bringing emotional harmony to conditions of Mental Health that are a direct result of anxiety, trauma, and emotional breakdowns or conditions. As the founder of the Living Breath Project, she has spent her career aiming to achieve today’s outcome which was to provide an agile, cost effective, and results driven digital platform that helps every day people become unstuck of symptoms from emotional conditions driven by day to day circumstances.

The Living Breath Project is dedicated to providing our suite of 42 QUICK START Companions and comprehensive Emotional Wellness Community Services.”

www.livingbreathproject.com

“Mental Health is a state of well-being in which the individual realizes his or her own abilities, can cope with the normal stresses of life, can work productively and fruitfully, and is able to make a contribution to his or her community.” World Health Organization

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What is beyond being poor?

13244775_1142513485798829_7128016630007376506_nThere is a land not far from where we live; I’d say about 4-5 countries far away (depending if you count side to side)… too far to walk to yet many do so every day, where several communities seek to learn new ways to be sustained. Where women and men are rich in land and are learning to cultivate the dirt with no water, no shovels, and for many no plan. The other part of the land is green fruit filled, where bees are kept, they make honey that helps their communities grow.

I recently traveled to Nicaragua for a long weekend to meet a group of people who are creating positive social change. They are beyond working bees. They are leaders in communities helping advance people lives. Raising communities the way they’ve been taught how.

In this team there are leaders, one traveling and telling people all over the world of his non-profit. His job takes him everywhere and through what he makes he started this act of love his name is Vince. I call his Cosgrove. His partner Victoria, she operates the non-profit that is literally saving people’s lives. This non-profit is called Sweet Progress. They help communities help their people become entrepreneurs so they can stand on their own. There are women, children and men with undiagnosed disabilities, people who don’t have the ability to talk, or walk, and people that have no control of their body and children with resiliency far beyond what poverty is known to create. And just because they have such resiliency should they continue to live in such ways? They are choosing not to and choosing to advance in life.

How you ask? Here is one of many ways:

13241230_1142512055798972_738077219938598669_nI met a woman, she could not speak, she has two children, and she is learning how to make dresses so she can sell her works and feed her children, pay for her children’s schooling needs. A typical story you hear in the “third world scenes.” What you don’t know is that she lives in iron wooden stick hot open shelter home with little to no water. You only get one hour to pour and fill your buckets for every few days. The water wells, ponds and lakes have dried up, there use to be water all around them. Now, there is no walking 5-15 miles to get a gallon of water (it takes me 1 hour alone to walk 3.5-4 miles alone, imagine that). There is no water to cultivate their lands. A few years ago they where finally given the deeds to their lands. These communities created in old cane fields were given to them as payment for their hard work as a company they worked for broke during the Nicaraguan wars. This once was a land of the biggest company that grew sweet cane in Central America they once had sweet lands.

She is but one of many social 13240540_1142512262465618_6163187979074509963_nentrepreneurs I will tell you about in my next few posts. All I can tell you now is to buy their honey, to help them mend their lives and lands.

www.SweetProgress.org

More later: What is beyond being poor

Have a positive and giving day,

Jes

 

Heal Orlando – Sana a Orlando

We are still human in this world. And Anyone i’ve met no matter their color or their belief or their struggle or their lack of, is still a human. To us, life matters. Mental Health for all matters. And Here at BOH we try to help out in this department as much as we can as we too live our lives helping others. So when we were asked to support Heal Orlando. We said, Heal Orlando, Heal our lives, heal from all the things being shown in the media. We are here to show you that there are many communities who care.

Todavía estamos en este mundo y somos humano . Y cualquier persona que he conocido, ya siendo de color o su creencia o su lucha o su faltas diferentes para nosotros todavía es ser humano. Para nosotros, la vida importa. Salud Mental para todos importa. Y aquí en BOH tratamos de ayudar en este departamento lo más que puede, como también nosotros vivimos nuestras vidas ayudando a otros. Así que cuando nos pidieron para apoyar Heal Orlando . Dijimos, Heal Orlando, Sana nuestras vidas , curar de todas las cosas que se muestran en los medios que duele al mirar… abrimos la comunicación. Hay muchas comunidades ayudando y les queremos dar de ver.

So we share with you this news:

“LGBTQ leaders in Orlando came together to form The LGBTQ Alliance. The LGBTQ Alliance is unified in support of the LGBTQ community and Hispanic communities and the City of Orlando. The Alliance grieves with the parents, partners, siblings, children and friends who lost their loved ones.

In a spirit of unity and recovery, the LGBTQ Alliance created The HealOrlando Project to help survivors and victims’ families get the help they need.

By visiting HealOrlando.org, community members can seek necessary resources or offer their assistance.

Tras el ataque en la discoteca Pulse el pasado 12 de junio, los líderes de la comunidad LGBTQ se han unido para formar la Alianza LGBTQ, para ofrecer apoyo a las comunidades hispana y LGBTQ, y a la ciudad de Orlando. Esta coalición se une al duelo de padres, parejas, hermanos, hijos y amigos por la pérdida de sus seres queridos. En el espíritu de unidad y recuperación, la Alianza LGBTQ lanza hoy el Proyecto HealOrlando, con el fin de que sobrevivientes y familiares de las víctimas reciban la ayuda necesaria.

Al visitar HealOrlando.org, la comunidad tendrá acceso a diferentes recursos y también podrá ofrecer su ayuda.
The LGBTQ Alliance comes together with support from the below:

Christ Church Unity Orlando
Center for Multicultural Wellness and Prevention
Come Out With Pride
Equality Florida
GLBT Community Center of Central Florida
Hispanic Federation
Hope & Help Center of Central Florida
Human Rights Campaign
Impulse Group Orlando
Libby’s Legacy
MBA Orlando
Miracle of Love
Orlando Gay Chorus
Out + Equal
Orlando Youth Alliance
Pulse of Orlando
PFLAG
The Venue
Two Spirit Health
Watermark
Zebra Coalition

Depression

Everyone at some point in their life will feel blue or sad.  However, these feelings are fleeting and within a few days the person feels like themselves again. Depression is nothing like that. Depression has sneaky way of creeping into a person’s life. Whether it is a new parent who wants to bond with their baby or a college student trying to study for exams. Depression makes people think that life is not worth living.  When you have depression,your life is turned upside down. Depression affects your ability to function on a daily basis; including its effects on relationships, career, school, even tasks of everyday living, like brushing your teeth for a long period of time. Depression can cause physical aches and pain and even illnesses. Depression is serious.

According to the National Institute of Mental Health study in 2014, an estimated 15.7 million adults experienced a depressive episode. Depression is characterized by 5 or more of the following symptoms during the same 2 weeks timespan or more  (for more information please consult your doctor or seek a mental health professional in your state)

  1. Depressed mood most of the day
  2. Lack of interest or pleasure in all, or almost all, activities you typically enjoy
  3. Significant weight loss
  4. Trouble sleeping almost every night
  5. Feeling restless or slow moving
  6. Extreme tiredness
  7. Feelings of worthlessness or guilt daily
  8. Inability to think or concentrate, or indecisiveness, nearly every day
  9. Suicidal thinking

If you are suffering  from depression please keep in mind the following: be compassionate , caring and kind towards yourself. Suffering from depression can be a frustrating and exasperating time. Depression is not a choice; it happens to people and there is hope. The causes vary so each person is unique therefore your recovery will be your own. Seek professional help: www.psychologytoday.com is a great starting resource if you do not know where to begin. Lastly, you are loveable and truly valuable.

Resources

National Institute of Mental Health. Web. 17 Feb. 2016.

American Psychiatric Association. (2013). Cautionary statement for forensic use of DSM-5. In Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders (5th ed.).

BOH Blogger: Yaritza

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Yaritza Zayas, MS, MFT, LPC

www.thesharecenter.net

Yaritza Zayas, is a Marriage & Family Therapist and a Licensed Professional Counselor . She is co-owner of SHARE Counseling & Therapy Services™, a private practice in Philadelphia, Pa. Yaritza graduated from Temple University with her B.S. in Human Biology and a minor in Anthropology. She earned her Master’s degree in Marriage & Family Therapy from Holy Family University.