January 2017

Travel can help decrease stress

This past summer I met a nurse from London. No… not like that. He was totally gay! He was amazing in taking care of me… he told me all about London and how I must go one day. And I think there is something to it. To travel abroad, to London. There is something about getting away that helps make everything better. Call me an ambivert. I love to be social but I gain energy being alone instead. I think this is what a lot of people don’t understand about me… I can be both an extrovert and an introvert. It’s a balance I hold near and dear, one I foster in front of the fire place along instead.

Anyways, to travel and relax and get to know new people and explore anew city! Maybe do France instead. Maybe so Spain again. Ever want to do that?

Last Month I did Mammoth Lakes… Amazing! Do you love the snow as much as I do? …. ?⛷I had so much fun! Totally relaxed and chilled! The gorgeousness help too… ?☃️

Send me pictures from your trips! I’ll love to hear your stories and allow them to be memories of your joy in bed and breakfasts … here how to choose to go ahead:

1. Point in a map where you want to go.
2. Do some research what you can do where you want to go. Then, narrow your list to just a few things.
3. Buy your tickets and if your planning for next year… save save save separately for your trip.
4. Find and air bnb or depending on your finding a place to call home base away
5. Tell your family where you will be.
6. Get on the plane or travel machine and go ahead.
7. Enjoy yourself and let yourself be instead.

Enjoy your travel.

Smile (if you want to)
Jes

Ever wonder what life has planned for you today when you wake up as oppose to making plans for yourself today?

Ever wonder what would happen if you decided to allow your day to flow instead of having to manage it or control it if make yourself feel stressed?

I do. I did this morning. I wondered… what if I didn’t do my own schedule, see clients, go to the ? dog store to get food, go to the ?? human store to get food… and go back home to enjoy a relax and enjoy my being at home after a hard day. Then I snapped out of it…

I looked at my schedule and saw I ended to hurry up to head to the gym.

Ever just wonder? I wonder how our Presidents and Queens and Kings do this… I think there is something to not knowing all that is coming to you in the end.

Just wondering… what you think?

Smile (if you want to)

Jes

Life Testing

Everyday I wake up and think… what should I write about today? Should I do research, should I spellcheck… hey, should I find someone to inspire me today…

So I decided to just write from my heart this year. And off we go to our second post instead. That’s whole blogger thing, ya know? 😉

You know, going through testing In life has to be one of the most difficult things we go through in life… a test. Not to demise a medical test or any other test…? but a test of life. I’ve noticed, that life tests us often and sometimes we don’t know what to do… and we freak out, we cry instead. ? It’s true!! And there is nothing wrong with it, it’s actually healing to cry at loss, because it’s something that you cared for, or someone that gave you breathe. Nevertheless, testing comes… and something I’ve also realized is that we learned something as young kids from long long ago… we we fall or get tradgically tested, we still can get up. We might get bruised up, we might get a bump on our heads… but yet we continue to strive ahead. As we get older some of us will learn to walk with crutches, with wheelchairs and most of us with our legs… but the point of it all as the we learned early lessons. Early lessons to let us keep going ahead.

I hope this reminder helps you to keep forward, keep moving ahead.

Smile (if you want)
Jes

How are you?

Welcome back!

I’m back! I was on hiatus for a year…yup! Taking care of me! I practice what I preached because I really needed to. Things happen and I learned so much from this year. This year is filled with several themes on our blog. I’ll be writing about most of keeping sane (what is that?!) in our everyday basic (not so basic) lives. Of course with my history and knowledge of being a people-listener-and-helper twist on it. My voice is a lot louder now, so I hope you enjoy our post this year.

Xoxo

Jes

Let’s start with: How are you?

Have you ever asked yourself this question more than once a week? (0/)… wait…. Do you even ask yourself this question?

Don’t feel bad. Not many people do. I’ve learned to ask myself this question because I have to. We tend to forget about ourselves much tooooooo often and the “How are you?” is hardly ever answered. Sometimes we do ask ourselves, “How are you?” but do you even answer it honestly?

Most of the time we leave this answer and never give it the response it deserves… why? “Well…to take care of other important things…” Ummm hummm I see you shaking your head because you just realized you haven’t asked yourself… lol

Here are five ways to actually answer this question. Ready?

Write down on a post-it or journal “How are you?” then follow it by actually writing it down on paper your answer. This may cause you to realize a lot of crazy in your life. But that’s ok. You are not alone on this term… everyone has something going on in their lives in some way, shape or another. It’s good to realize the bad and the good.
Record “How are you (HAY)?” on your phone and by the end of the week you should have a narrative of how you where during the week. Imagine? Just asking you HAY five times… that’s funny… Actually answering it would be great. No? ….. Yes! 😀
Write down in your “I am grateful box” how you are doing and why you are happy that you are doing how you are doing… say that ten times! XP Sometimes your “How” may be negative and you don’t want to answer it…
1. Following it up with what you are grateful for (you are breathing, you are alive, you can scream on the top of your lungs that you feel CRAPPY and are having a not so good unhappy moment…. Followed by you are able to do just that O.o) helps you work through the negative feelings and moments for a bit.
2. Life is not so bad when you realize that you are still breathing. Unless you don’t want to do that… then I will HIGHLY recommend you ask for help and get support. (B. I wasn’t messing around…)
Have a “How you are doing buddy.” Someone that actually asks you “How are you?” every day. Note: This will get old on both ends after one month… so I tried. So try having various people ask. Or just get a therapist you go to once a week to ask you about your week. I’m SURE they will ask and listen to all you have to say! Ha-ha
You don’t have to ask yourself how you are doing every day! This is your life! Empower what you need to and if you need to. You can do it once a week, twice a week or every other week. The point: Is to ask yourself how you are doing!

I hope you are able to check on yourself ever so often. I would recommend you talk to people before you do decide to change something drastic in yourself or life and find a team of friends and people who will support you while you asking “How are you?” Sometimes the outcomes are not what you expect… are they ever? Yes, sometimes they are.

Enjoy asking yourself…. How are you?

Smile (if you want),

Jes