Criticism

Criticism

Don’t let criticism break you, let it make you. And when told to you in a rough form, let them know. Speak up after they have expressed what they are saying. Like you want to be heard, hear. Like you want to be spoken to, speak.

Take what you must from the moment and look at it as an opportunity to add something to your self that will make you stronger and better.

Also, acknowledged that not all criticism is meant for you. This doesn’t mean that you are to ignore the person, but if you know deep down in your instinctual persona that they have no idea what they are saying. Let them speak. You never know, their words you may need someday.

Accept Criticism, just not the foul attitudes that come with it.

Defend you, be you. Learn to listen to you.

Jess Sofia Valle

And smile. (If you want)

Self-Culture and Balance

Lets read about Self Culture. Self-Culture you say? 😀

Self-Culture is…

You (say it with me… ME!). Self (ME) culture is mostly based on how you conduct your life. What are the everyday things you do, say, feel, touch and hear basically all YOUR senses.

Parts of you is how you live through your own quality of life (Where you live, how you style or not style yourself, what toothpaste you use!) Moreover, you’re placed worth as person (I like to think I’m Shera sometimes). And at times how we allow society to view our persona (this is a super small part because you cannot control how other’s view you.) With Your Self Culture comes what captivates you, gives you a rise, what you require to be excellent in arts, letters, manners, scholarly pursuits, etc. Self-Culture = you.

This also means knowing your ethnic culture, who you are in your ethnic culture, whether you are Latina, Mayan, Aztec, Latino, Black, Belizean, Guatemalan, African-American, American, Caucasian, Native American, Blue man group, Mexican, Asian, White Which ever Ethnic Culture that is Lucky to have you… Know that part too and how you fit or don’t fit in it.

Sounds overwhelming doesn’t it? It is not. You probably already do it and you don’t even know it.

Taking (noticed I said TAKING) balance means being you but also being aware of what “YOU” are doing. Sometimes, we become so “overwhelmed” that we feel and think that we forget to do things, go to places etc. But, If we paid more attention to our Self Culture; on the WHO, WHAT, WHERE, WHEN AND HOW of our lives, we will then, be able to see what we want and need. AND what we don’t want and don’t need.
You can create your balance. Yes sometimes we need someone to give us a nudge, and that too is VERY OK. (I ask for nudges by my peers and friends too). But once you become aware of you and your culture, surroundings and who you are, you take even more control. Some of us need to take less control sometimes too. That is just part of the balancing act.

So here are some ways you can create balance:

* Define your day
* Remind yourself who you are (keep is positive!)
* Write things down if you must (I DO!)
* Tell yourself what you want to accomplish. (Put it out into the world so it can come to you).
* Be aware of your surroundings
* Be aware of whom you are with
* And Trust yourself to live balanced.

All this takes time to happen. They say it takes 21-23 days to start up a habit. So try it out.

Learn you, Live Life, Love and Be!
Jes Sofia Valle

I suggest you learn the word: Boundaries

I’m an advocate for taking care of “me.” And my close friends know that I was not like that before. You see… I use to be the girl that use to do over 20 projects at one time. No kidding. And I ALWAYS wanted to please everyone. But I had a REALITY CHECK! And although I was thriving, my body wasn’t, it was depleting. I saw that I was not pleasing myself, body, emotions, thoughts… Which should have been my first project.

“Even the smartest people have their air moments” JSV

I suggest you learn the word: Boundaries

These are SOME questions I ask myself before taking on a task:

1. Will this make me money?
2. Will I able to TRULY handle this?
3. What is time line this will take away from me?
4. How do I truly feel about this project?
5. Do I really want to do this?

These are reasonable questions. Questioning something you do is more profound than you think.

A scenario: We get bottled up in a routine, of which we become mechanical in doing something. Which then, may lead to you being Unhappy. You being Unhappy then allows for you to suffer more in the end. Being “unhappy” is a though. If your thinking allows your body to be chemically imbalance, then your body goes bonkers. And then, you are not even able to do what you hate or love to do because you are not there.
Sometimes, this takes a long time to happen. Sometimes you may never know that you are going through it because you are so very busy that you don’t feel it. But your body does, and you being disconnected with your body…well you already know that not well at all.

SO…next time you take another project think about your self; Your Body, Your mind, your emotions/thoughts. Place yourself first. Don’t forget about your family if you have one, or your friends if they are your family.

When you are happy, healthy and able to be on the Go, you will be able to do what you love and more! JSV

Jes: I am still working through getting better for me, so that I too can do more of what I love to do. Don’t forget it is a process. JSV

Live Life, Love and Be!